The Ones around us

So recently I’ve been stripped of direct contact with many of the people I was used to seeing every day. Yes!! School had to end one day and now it’s all just social media. My excuse is the distance but the truth is I’m really not the “let’s meet up sometime” kind of guy. And quite frankly, there are just a handful of people who I still feel in touch with. I would say this handful changed my life, but they actually defined it. I don’t think I knew who and who they were until recently, but I know I’ll never lose touch of them.

I have always had a passing through mindset. It seems I raced through life so much that I don’t even know how old I am anymore. Talk about living out my own time and productivity concept. It feels awesome, but running so fast has its cons. Phases change so quickly and it becomes hard to define who the people around are to you, many times I don’t even try. My relationships just build themselves around the things that matter at each point. Phases should never change principles or values, but they change people in several other ways. I have seen my goals, priorities, interests, tastes, sense of humor, and motivating factors become unrecognizable with changing phases. They say you attract what you are, but if you change then you attract different things and different people.

I’ve learnt to choose my friends wisely, but no matter how wisely I choose, I only get to keep very few. In fact, we really don’t get to choose those who stay in our hearts, and neither do changing phases nor the friends themselves. The ones that will be long term are those who connect not just to the things that matter to us, but somehow break into our hearts to define who we are, many times without even trying. I often beat myself up about not being in touch with the many friends I’ve made, I always will, but deep down I know that there are those who will never be far away. These friends will always be there, and I’ll always be there for them. They are the ones around us who broke in. It is important to be the best for the friends you make, never push people away, but remember you don’t have to pull them in. There are friends made to matter, some made to last. These are the ones made of gold, just for us.